• culture,  fashion,  womens issues

    English Summer – Day In The Garden

    + How To Communicate Romantic Appeal

    Dear readers, in the past I have mostly written about the clothing and lifestyle habits that we as women instinctively love. We are grown women who dress for ourselves, thank you very much! However today’s topic is a little different. Aimed at my heterosexual female readers, I discuss some of the habits regarding dress and grooming that are conducive to attraction. Here are 8 areas in which women can improve their attractiveness to the opposite sex.

    Location: Queen Mary’s Gardens.

    1. Photography

    To capture your body and spirit in the most flattering light, consider hiring professional photographers. There is a booming industry of photographers on Facebook and Instagram waiting to transform your image. If you are lucky to have talented sisters, mums, or girlfriends, enlist their help in capturing you at your best. Taking photographs for others is a labour of love, it may take 10 shots to get a good one, so I often repay others’ kindness by taking their photographs too.

    ↑ My friend Joy looks absolutely gorgeous and comfortable outfitted in creamy custard yellow.

    2. Written Content

    Whether you are funny, intellectual, down to earth, lighthearted, or ALL of the above, make sure your amazing personality, personal passions and religious priorities are clearly communicated in your social media posts. Everybody has negative or frustrating past experiences, consider communicating these in an inspirational or even funny tone of voice.

    ↑ Summer garden attire that isn’t sportswear. High-end designers items are obviously very covetable, but I adore high street and affordable vintage offerings just the same. The top and skirt were a surprise discount find. My handbag is pre-loved from the 1960s.

    3. Body Language

    I love good eye contact. It communicates honesty and directness. However, in dating there are other types of glances that are particularly useful. Consider tilting your head down, or looking away, this allows for traditional male capacity to chase. When you seem to be minding your own business is when others seem to be most attracted to you. Looking back at these photos now, we should definitely have smiled as well! Women are not passive, helpless creatures. But unfortunately as governed by traditional dating theory, men chase and women are chosen. I believe one of our great powers is in who we accept.

    4. Clothing, Shoes, Jewellery

    I have seen head-to-toe black punk princesses, demure ladies in elaborate clothing, and everyday plain Janes find happily ever after. Dress according to your unique personality, and stay within your budget. Choose fashion items that accentuate your lovely assets, and skilfully tuck away any problem areas. Extra brownie points if your are adorned in attractive colours.

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  • culture,  fashion

    Redefining Nude

    My latest project got me thinking about how flesh tones are conventionally named on the market. From art supplies to contemporary fashion, “nude” or “flesh tint” is commonly used to describe the pale, peachy skin colour among those of European origin. That is despite the fact that the Western world is becoming more and more ethnically diverse. With this shift in consumer demographics, perhaps it is time to reconsider the Eurocentric way of naming flesh tones.

    From porcelain to dark brown, “nude”  is in the eye of the beholder.

    For years, ballet dancers with darker skin tones like Eric Underwood and Chyrstyn Fentroy struggled to find ballet shoes to match their skin colours.  It really dawned on me that the limited range of nude shades is an industry-wide problem in garment manufacturing.

    Nude is not a single shade but encompassing a wide range of shades.

    ↑ How about calling this garment a bodysuit in the nude or flesh-tone range – in the shade “fawn” or “beige”? Or for those more creative “biscuit” or “latte”? Does it sound appropriate, appealing, or to some outspoken pundits on the blogosphere: virtue-signalling perhaps?

    Inspired by the discussion on skin tones, I have created some illustrations and woven samples in a beige and brown colour palette here.

    Thanks for dropping by readers. Stay cool in this hot weather, and stay woke on the topic of nudes.