I feel so blessed to have incredible and humble female friends. True story: some of my funniest friends don’t have a massive social media following. One of my prettiest friends doesn’t even have social media accounts, and doesn’t know who the Kardashians are (at this point in the conversation, we all lovingly laughed at her). What’s more, her Whatsapp profile photo is the default one. Another friend with the most amazing style rarely posts photos of her outfits and doesn’t advertise clothes for a living. A flower is a flower no matter how privately or publicly she lives her life.
What’s the best way to be a great ally to a female friend? Let her SHINE. Every flower blooms in a different way, so bloom in your own way. You are incredible in your own unique way that others can’t be. For example, just because social media marketing and modelling is a growing sector doesn’t mean it is for everyone. Looking nice and being publicly social all the time would be very stressful to me, and I can’t ever do it.
Daily reminders of our blessings can help women deal with jealousy – whether acknowledged or unacknowledged ones. People have hinted or commented on the fact that I have “nice” hair. I use a grand total of zero hair treatments, and always kindly refuse any such promotions at the hair salon. It’s frizz-free and straight – one of my blessings in life. (But actually it’s not that nice, because I do have grey hairs. See what I mean? You wouldn’t be able to tell that from the photos that I share.) Maybe YOU have something that others are jealous of. Count your blessings because everyone has one or two.
Women friends are the real deal. I don’t choose them based on looks or popularity. Now get out and truly support the ladies in your life.